I believed I wasn’t good enough
💚I didn’t have the confidence to bring my ideas into the world …. Deep down, I wanted to. I wanted to make a difference in the world. I had a lot of good ideas. Brilliant ideas, I dare now say.
But I had a pattern to undermine myself: I was always quick to dismiss my ideas. Thought they were probably stupid. I was embarrassed before I had even shared them with anyone. If I judged myself first, then no-one else could judge me and I could keep myself safe…
I did not see my own pattern. It ran in my subconscious …
I really believed my ideas were not good enough to be seen. I was not good enough. Period. That was my identity. It determined everything I did – or did not. It determined how I felt. It definitely determined my low level of confidence.
Then I learned something important:
Shame is the number one roadblock that holds you back from creating the life you want. Shame prevents healing!
I also learned that I was not alone in this! Especially for women, this is a common issue.
Can you see how embarrassment and shame may be preventing you from taking action? How you may be shrinking yourself to keep yourself ‘safe’? How shame might be preventing your healing and growth?
➡️ How does shame get in the way of your confidence?
My client believed she wasn’t good enough
💚 My client had long standing issues with showing up for herself. She really wanted something, but when she had to do the work for it, she froze. She started avoiding the tasks that needed to be done. Always finding something else to do that appeared more interesting or attractive at the time.
She was so frustrated with herself, she concluded “maybe I don’t have what it takes. Maybe I’m not smart enough. I’m not good enough” and her inner critic was working hard to keep her on that line of thinking.
Now, she is actually indeed a very smart and capable person and she already understood she had to do something about this. Her logical mind could understand that “if she just did the work, she would be capable enough”, but she couldn’t work out why she just couldn’t do it. She had worked on her issues with several people but progress was marginal.
When I worked with her, I discovered that she carried a great deal of embarrassment around the whole thing. I then knew we had to work on this first, as shame and embarrassment prevent healing!
After we had worked on releasing those feelings, her perspective changed. Now she was able to shift her beliefs around not being good enough. She could now see where it was coming from and that it didn’t belong to her.
She discovered that the belief was formed in childhood and had paralysed her for most of her life. The relief on her face was palpable when she really knew it wasn’t true. Not just in her logical mind, but her body and nervous system were now also on board with the truth. This is where real healing happens! 💚
➡️ Would you like to know the medicine, the antidote, the very thing that disrupts shame, the thing that helps you unleash your authentic confidence?
➡️ Would you like to release your feelings of shame and embarassment and take the next step of breaking through limiting beliefs such as “I’m not good enough”?
➡️ Do you long to step into a bigger vision, in which you successfully share your gifts with the world and make a difference from a place where you feel calm and confident, energised and inspired?
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